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Once Upon a Time on Valentine's Day

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A heart.

Once again, it's Valentine's Day… I'm not a romantic guy. At least, I never thought I was meant to be one. But some things change, and there's nothing you can do about it.

It's not one of these sweet-to-the-bone romantic stories. We didn't know each other when we were children. Nor did our eyes accidentally meet in a crowded bar with the "Love Is In The Air" song gently caressing us from the background. In fact, four years ago, she didn't even know I existed. And when I saw her for the first time, I honestly thought she was way too smart and out of my league. But some things change…

When we started dating, I couldn't believe it was happening. It seemed too good to be true. She was so simple, yet so elegant. So bright, yet so beautiful. Sometimes she appeared to be a bit old-fashioned, while at the same time, she was very modern. For me, she might as well have been the famous "you" part from the classic Mariah Carey "All I Want for Christmas Is You" single. And then came our first big fight…

As silly as it seems, today I can't even remember what we were fighting for… But that day… Oh boy… It got pretty wild… I said some nasty stuff that I am not proud of. One thing led to the other, and I left her without turning back. How childish of me!

This story, however, has a happy ending. Shortly after leaving, I realised the mistakes that I had made. It wasn't her, it was me (I know what you're thinking right now, but this is not the infamous breakup line). I recognised that I had to change how I approached her and our relationship. I had to focus more on the strategic design part instead of going all-in for the tactical one. And she, the DDD (Domain Driven Design), took me back with arms wide open! Now that I think about it, I feel silly writing about DDD on Valentine's day… But hey, since you're reading - we're in this together!