Once Upon a Time on Valentine's Day

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Once Upon a Time on Valentine's Day
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Once again, it's Valentine's Day… I'm not a romantic guy. At least I never thought I was meant to be one. But some things change, and there's nothing you can do about it.

It's not one of these sweet to the bone romantic stories. We didn't know each other when we were children. Nor did our eyes accidentally meet in a crowded bar with the "Love Is In The Air" song gently caressing us from the background. In fact, four years ago, she didn't even know I exist. And when I saw her for the first time, I honestly thought she was way too smart and out of my league. But some things change…

When we started dating, I couldn't believe it was happening. It seemed too good to be true. She was so simple, yet so elegant. So bright, yet so beautiful. Sometimes she appeared to be a bit old fashioned, while at the same time she was very modern. For me, she might as well have been the famous "you" part from the classic Mariah Carey "All I Want for Christmas Is You" single. And then came our first big fight…

As silly as it seems, today I can't even remember what we were fighting for… But that day… Oh boy… It got pretty wild… I said some nasty stuff that I am not proud of. One thing led to the other, and I left her without turning my back. How childish of me!

This story, however, has a happy ending. Shortly after leaving, I realised the mistakes that I made. It wasn't her, it was me (I know what you're thinking right now, but this is not the infamous breakup line). I recognised that I had to change the way I approached both her and our relationships. I had to focus more on the strategic design part instead of going all-in for the tactical one. And she, the DDD (Domain Driven Design), took me back with arms wide open! Now that I think about it, I feel silly writing about DDD on Valentine's day… But hey, since you're reading - we're in this together!